I want to explore beautiful places with you.: Insecurity

Self-help time! Haha, so yesterday night I was feeling a little uneasy (which has been the case most of the time) and I really just wanted to do something to help myself. Plus, Google really does come in handy for many useful things :-) So I've come to the realisation (for sure, now) that I am, an insecure person. I also am a very emotional person. However, I do not see these as my flaws but rather something which makes me me and a part of myself which I want to become stronger in. I just want to make this post so that whenever I am feeling anxious or insecure, I can come back to it and know how to deal with the situation.

P.S. I found these tips online and I find them really helpful (tweaked them a bit)! The link will be down below :-)

1. Don't make assumptions
- Do not let bad communication turn into mind reading
- If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else
- If someone says nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative
connotation
- Do not let other people mind read you too: say what you mean and mean what you say
- Do not expect other people to know the unknowable
- Respect their right to privacy and do not conclude anything without their consent

2. Stop looking for perfection
- There are no “perfect people”, just different flavours of imperfect ones
- Do not base people on your ideals
- No one can always give you what you want

3. Stop inventing problems that don't exist
- Creating problems in your mind and believing it is self-sabotage
- Ups and downs are normal
- Distinguish between your non-existent worries and the truth
- Take deep breaths
- Tell yourself, “This problem I’m concerned with only exists in my mind.”

4. Don't focus on the negatives
- Happiness grows in direct proportion to acceptance
- Happiness grows in inverse proportion to intolerance and expectations
- Accept and deal with the imperfections to make them ideal
- Do not constantly look for signs of what’s not working, but for what is working
- Acknowledge how amazing the people in your life are
- Always appreciate them:
• Promote their strong qualities
• Cheer for their victories
• Encourage their goals and ambitions
• Challenge them to be the best they can be

5. Seek self- reassurance
- Do not always look to another person for assurance, but get into the habit of reassuring
yourself
- Challenge your own fears and imaginings rather than just accepting them
- Ask yourself: "What real evidence is there for this fear?"

6. Build self-esteem
- Do not let yourself revolve around relationship or it will become an unhealthy obsession
- Partake in activities you enjoy without your partner sometimes
- The more you learn to live your life to the fullest, the more you’ll learn to be confident about yourself and your worth
- Be happy with yourself: go for a run, get your dream body, wear good clothes
- Develop hobbies and skills to constantly improve yourself

7. Trust
- We are all human and it is natural to admire people, but that does not make another any less faithful
- Know that your partner never wants to hurt you, so offer them your faith in return
- Be dependable to let others know they can rely on you